Savage Love

Leave Me Alone

Hey, Faggot: I'm a 57-year-old straight white male, amputee 42 years, and I run an amputee support group. I'm amp-neutral myself and have no particular approach-avoidance behavior. I have been approached a few times by men interested in my stump, over the years. Once I went behind the stacks in the S.F. Public Library to let a guy feel my stump, 'cause he wanted it so bad and I felt like a woman with some guy drooling all over her, and therefore thought it might be an interesting experience. It was, however, simply a curious experience, and I didn't get off on it. It did kinda "creep me out."

I have had a fantasy of fucking a woman with my stump and, in fact, recently met some women who are interested. As a happily married man, my wife will probably not approve, and that is as far as it goes. A couple of men have come to the amp group feigning some amp interest, and I had to ask them not to come back. I have no objection to any particular consensual activity between consenting adults, but I cannot allow this creepy vibe in the group.

Bill Spivey LCSW

Confidential to Penny Pusher: Tell him you're not interested in pursuing things any further, have your phone number changed, move, and buy a gun. If he still insists on bothering you, shoot him.

Confidential to Way Too Soon: Who says you have to fuck her with your dick? You've got hands, you've got fingers, you've got a tongue. If you come right away, go at her with something else until you can get it back up. And since second comings take lots longer than first comings, you'll be able to last longer the second time around. Best of luck.

"If one is lucky, a single fantasy can transform a million realities."
-- Maya Angelou