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Editor's note: SF Weekly stands by Cothran's report.
Your article on Mike Neel ("Road to Redemption," April 28) is a small masterpiece. It's an eloquent portrait of a person, a sport, and a whole culture (or counterculture). The national and local cycling mags are so bad that every word you publish about the sport is appreciated. It's a pleasure to see a feature story so well done.
Jeez, a Guy Makes One Mistake
I was very interested in Helen Gao's article "Coming Clean" (Bay View, April 7), because I believe global warming is happening, and I believe companies should act responsibly regarding the environment.
But I choose not to believe her source, Stanford professor Stephen Schneider. It wasn't long ago (maybe 15 years) that Schneider was warning of the threat of a global ice age. From an ice age to global warming in just 15 years? No thanks.
Now, Schneider may have studied this issue for a long time, but his strong proclamations don't hold water with me. I don't need him to tell me that the Earth is warming. All I have to do is go outside for that.
It seems to me there are two long-running fallacies upheld within the gay community, and your otherwise informative article on gay Latinos seems to have fallen straight into them both ("You Can't Be Gay -- You're Latino!," April 14).
The first favorite underlying belief that no one seems to question is that men who have sex with men should just accept that they're gay. Having lived in several different countries, clearly the majority of men having homosexual relations in this world (I would venture to say at least 80 percent) have absolutely nothing whatsoever in common with the 20 percent minority who call themselves the Gay Community, most of whom live in developed countries.
The fact is most of them get by quite happily with ambiguous friendships, masculine camaraderie, furtive tumbles, athletic cuddles, etc. Those whom I've known have absolutely no lessons to take from what I consider a gay community that I find quite frankly intolerant at the least or sexually conservative at best (try having sex with a woman as a gay man and see how much support you get from fellow gays). Also, as a lovely Moroccan man said to me one day when I told him the "gazelle" I was going back home to was a man and not a woman, "Oh stop that, that's for rich people." Maybe there are economic realities we just can't comprehend.
Fallacy No. 2 is about the warm, welcoming San Francisco gay community. As a recent migrant myself, I simply don't see gay people going out of their way to help other gay people feel better in the Land of Oz. It's not all bad, don't get me wrong. The gay community is very good for at least three things: business, sex, and epidemiological data.
I still remember being laughed at by two gay men in a shop when I asked how to get to Castro, and being asked if I was really gay another time because my clothes are not up with local fashion. If being a "member" of this nebulous thing we call "community" means dressing alike, fucking alike, thinking alike, and talking alike, then count me out. I didn't do all this fighting to be boxed into something as small as that.
Maybe it's time we gay people sat down together and decided just what it is we want to do together to make gay life more pleasant. As ironical as it may seem, my guess is that one of the top priorities would involve some way to combat loneliness and lack of intimacy.