Valentine's Day Be Yours: International Quirkyalone Day: The first celebration of the international grass-roots movement celebrating romantics who prefer to be single and a benefit party for To-Do List magazine, 7 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $5-$25, register at email@example.com if you would like to attend. Atlas Cafe, 3049 20th St. (at Alabama), 648-1047.
Black and White Valentine's Day Ball: An Oakland Raiders—sponsored party benefiting Foster a Dream, with live music and a silent auction, 6:30 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $150. Blackhawk Country Club, 599 Blackhawk, Danville, 707-280-5775.
A Black Valentine's Day: An evening of anti-romantic jazz tunes with Eleonor England and her trio, 7-11 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, free. Bobby Ryder's, 312 Harriet ( at Bryant), 934-1655.
Brava Brasil: Songs of the Heart: An evening of music with singer songwriter Celia Malheiros, 8 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, and Saturday, Feb. 15, $22-$25, post-performance Valentine's Day party both evenings with music and appetizers. Brava Theater Center, 2789 24th St. (at York), 647-2822.
The Fencesitters Winter Ball: Bisexual dance party for lovers of all stripes and colors, 9 p.m.-2 a.m. Saturday, Feb. 15, $5-$10 plus a Threesome special with $2 off for each of the three after 10 p.m. Jezebel's Joint, 510 Larkin (at Turk), 345-9832.
From V-Day to V-World: Envisioning a World Without Violence: Performances picturing a world free of violence toward women, 4-8 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, free, 269-8809 (information). New College, 777 Valencia (at 19th St.), 437-3465.
Heartbreak: Anti—Valentine's Day benefit for the Bike Hut featuring live music, 7 p.m.-2 a.m. Thursday, Feb. 13, $8, 252-7666 (information). Studio Z, 314 11th St. (at Folsom), 252-7666.
How We First Met: Real-life couples share stories of how they fell in love onstage as actors re-create their tales with improvised sketches and songs, additional performances at 7 and 9:30 p.m. on Valentine's Day, Friday, Feb. 14, 8 p.m. Thursdays-Saturdays, through Feb. 22; $23.50-$34.50, 845-4314 (information). Actors Theatre, 533 Sutter (at Powell), 296-9179.
The Love Life of the Octopus: Valentine's screening of two rare classic films by French scientist Jean Painlevé, 2 p.m. Sunday, Feb. 16, free-$10. Exploratorium, 3601 Lyon (at Marina), 397-5673.
Love on the Rock: Valentine's Day evening tour of Alcatraz aboard the Blue and Gold Fleet with stories of romance on the Rock collected from soldiers, guards, and visitors, 4:20-7:30 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, free-$20.75, 705-5555 (tickets). Pier 41, Fisherman's Wharf.
Love on Wheels Valentine's Day Party: Mix and mingle with other bicyclists at the SF Bike Coalition's annual party, 6-9 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, free-$7, 431-2453 (information). Cafe Du Nord, 2170 Market (at Sanchez), 861-5016.
Love: The Live Version: Spoken word party and celebration of hip hop theater artist Aya de Leon's new CD, 7 and 9:30 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $10-$12. La Peña Cultural Center, 3105 Shattuck (at Prince), Berkeley, 510-849-2568.
Ménage a Deux: Anon Salon presents an intimate Parisian rendezvous for two featuring dinner theater, dancing, and music by the Baguette Quartet and many more, 7 p.m.-2 a.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $100 per couple, 864-1238 (information). The Regency Center's Lodge, 1290 Sutter (at Van Ness).
My Bloody Valentine: The Microcinema presents a screening of a Valentine's Day slasher flick from the 1980s, 8 p.m. Tuesday, Feb. 18, donations. Jezebel's Joint, 510 Larkin (at Turk), 345-9832.
Planet of Luv: Anon Salon presents a celebration of love and peace with the Venusians, Space Cowboys, and more, 9 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 15, $15-$20, 864-1238 (information). Avalon Ballroom at the Regency Center, 1290 Sutter (at Van Ness), 673-5716.
Red Silk Affaire: Black-tie optional Valentine's ball for singles and couples, 8:30 p.m.-1:30 a.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $30-$55, 781-0900 (information). University Club of San Francisco, 800 Powell (at California), Fourth Fl.
Rumi -- Poet of the Heart: Marin-based filmmaker Haydn Reiss introduces his film about the 13th-century Persian scholar and mystic and answers questions following the screening, 7 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $5.50-$8.50. Rafael Film Center, 1118 Fourth St. (at A St.), San Rafael, 454-1222.
SalsaCrazy Valentine's Ball: Singles and couples are welcome to an evening of salsa lessons, performances, and live music, 7 p.m.-2 a.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $10-$15, 668-9936 (reservations). The Shattuck Down Low Lounge, 2284 Shattuck (at Bancroft), Berkeley, 510-548-1159.
Sex in the Sea: Learn about the reproductive habits of over 40 animal species that live in the San Francisco Bay at this second annual event featuring a guided tour and cocktail reception, 6-10 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $20-$25, 623-5301 (reservations). Aquarium of the Bay, Embarcadero (at Beach), 623-5300.
Samrat Upadhyay: The author reads from his new novel The Guru of Love, 7 p.m. Thursday, Feb. 13, free. A Clean Well-Lighted Place for Books, 601 Van Ness (at Turk), 441-6670.
The Vagina Monologues: Eve Ensler's hit play benefits the Community Resource Center at the San Francisco Women's Building, 8 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, and Saturday, Feb. 15, 7 p.m. Sunday, Feb. 16, $10-$20, 269-8809 (information). New College Theater, 777 Valencia (at 19th St.), 437-3460.
Valentine's Day Cabaret: Members from the Julia Morgan ensemble and Shotgun Players perform jazz standards, show tunes, and cabaret classics at this second annual benefit for the Julia Morgan Center for the Arts, 8 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, $20-$25, 925-798-1300 (reservations). Julia Morgan Center for the Arts, 2640 College (at Derby), Berkeley, 510-845-8542.