Never grab the martini shakers at Specs

In SOC101 we all learned about "norms." Norms gave Allen Funt a raison d'être when he messed around on Candid Camera; they are organized ways of behaving, unwritten laws, based on some cosmic consensus. Breaching these social agreements is not injurious or harmful, merely rude or strange. For example, you aren't supposed to use Nasonex when you are in line at the bank. It's sort of understood that you should do that in the restroom. If someone walks into the restroom and sees you snorting it, they may be mildly grossed out, but they will still be under the tacit agreement that gnarly things will go on in bathrooms. However, had you done your huffing while waiting in line for a teller, the entire place would've stopped what they were doing and stared at you like you had just dropped your pants. (Another no-no, but probably illegal, so not a "norm.")

I have a hard time with norms. A real hard time. It has only gotten worse from working with autistic people, because for the most part they are completely clueless about such things, which means, in essence, that norms are not logical, which means, in essence, that autistic people are right and it is the rest of us that are wrong. But I digress.

This week I went to North Beach and screwed up SOC101-style. The evening started out great, having gone into Tosca to say hello to Richard the barkeep. I grilled him for some Sean Penn updates, discussed the implications of tipping after each drink versus in one chunk at the end of the night, and apologized for referring to him as "a younger Woody Allen" in an earlier Bouncer. I could've stayed there all night, but duty called, and I instead had to walk a few feet over to Specs Twelve Adler Museum Cafe, or, as we cosmo Friscans refer to it, Specs.

There are so many bars in the city with "character," but for some reason this is the one that shows up in every guidebook, which means that tons of tourists come there to soak up some old-school S.F. ambience. It's comfy and a bit bedraggled, sort of like your Great Aunt Myrtle who makes killer peanut butter cookies and refuses to put her teeth in unless company is over. The walls of Specs are covered with curios and there are many wooden tables for the peasant folk to gather round and make merry. If you are hungry, they offer a big-ass hunk of cheese served with a pile of saltines. Yummers.

As usual, I was in the mood to chat, which of course made me look a bit desperate, which of course meant that no one approached me. I began by breaking the first in a series of norms. There was a guy like four stools away from me who looked like Jared Leto. He had a gigantic messenger bag with reflective tape all over it. I shouted over to him, "So, are you a bike messenger?" No, he replied, just a tourist. He was smiley and seemed open to my inquiries. Jesus, was this guy alone? This was too good to be true. I continued to exchange words with him loudly (a normative no-no) until some babe showed up that he was with. Drat.

That was OK though, because before you could say "tavern slut" there was another guy to my right, and this one looked like Johnny Depp. In retrospect, I should go out without my glasses more often. His name was Jeremy, as I was to find out, and he worked for a virtual reality company, only he doesn't wear the glove with the dots on it like you would think. We began talking about, jeez, whatever, and in five minutes had progressed to our fathers leaving our mothers when we were infants, his recent divorce, and the fact that his hair hurt. I blame it on the cap he was wearing, which looked like something Jean Shrimpton might have doffed. Anyway, for some reason I hadn't scared this one away, and he even admitted that he was out alone that night. He laughed at my jokes and teased me a bit in return. Life was good!

Whilst we were a-chattin', a woman he knew came up and ordered a martini. They said their howdys and got caught up, and the bartender poured the martini into a glass and left the mixer pint glass and strainer with the leftovers for the lady. The customer poured all the rest of it to the rim of her glass, said her goodbyes, and went back to her table, leaving Jeremy and me and the mixer glass to ourselves. So, here's where I screwed up. After about five minutes the bartender still hadn't picked up the glass. The contents had begun to melt. On a whim, and in an extreme bout of norm-busting, I took hold of the thing and poured the ice water into my beer.

"What the hell are you doing??!!"shrieked the bartender. I froze. "Keep all sharp objects away from her!" she quipped to the bar, snapping up her strainer and glass.

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