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Funny! How about a list of questions for his current girlfriend?

So the mayor's got a mistress. My wife and daughter tells me forget the mayor and his mistress as Little League action. What they and their girlfriends want to know is how about that College of Marin teacher recently caught in bigamy and crossdressing (appearantly one of the wives is a real B & D Mistress) and on no, teaching ballroom dance? The girls read the Marin and Reno court papers like it's their new favorite soap opera. My son just wants to know where he can sign up.

Crazy Love ala Burt & Linda Pugach, Joey B. & Amy Fischer, Larry & Isla Wachowski . . .

Yeah, how about that Crazy Love couple in Marin County, California with their 25-year also odd-ball on-again off-again on-again love-affair story? Court papers filed by both in Reno, Nevada and Marin County, California do provide glimpses into another secret world of adultery, sex, bondage, domination, cross-dressing, double lives, and fetishes. Into this vacuum of secrecy rumors have flown. Wonder what would happen if we did ask him to conduct the College’s Symphonic Band in Barber’s School For Scandal? And what about that Confidential Marriage? What he has signaled in his Marin court papers, however, are themes that are the same recurring obsessions with Burt & Linda Pugach, and Amy Fischer & Joey B.: divorce, gripping lust, adultery, escapism, drive for money and power, marriage, the sadness of separation, roller-coaster emotions, public masks, perfect volleys of he said/she said, obsessive love, glamour, the joy of repeated reconciliations, unconventional sex and roles, disturbing accusations, private games, false police reports, anger, bondage, forgery, weirdness, narcissism, romance, affairs, compulsion, secrecy, train-wreck, co-dependency, crazy, strange, strong attraction, long-lasting relationship, fraud, engrossing togetherness, anguish in misunderstandings, need for control, insecurity in each other’s love, and living double lives. Who cares what the shrinks or others think or write?! Here again romance prevails. I stand up and cheer for these who have loved in honesty for what they are and the person they love are and continue to love each other with all its craziness.

"A guy who’s got the chutzpah to try to pull the wool over somebody’s eyes.” That’s a good definition of a bigamist," said University of Cincinnati clinical psychiatry professor Linda Chernus. “One (spouse) is hard enough,” joked Chernus, who has researched bigamists and believes generally they have such low self-esteem that they marry multiple spouses to compensate with a sense of “grandiosity.” “They need to control women, to keep secrets and keep autonomy so no one knows what’s going on inside of them,” Chernus said. “There may also be some underlying insecurity. “(Bigamists) have a sense of invincibility, that they can get away with this. They think they can get away with anything,” she said.

According to J. Michael Bailey, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University and the author of The Man Who Would Be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism, the vast majority of cross-dressing men are heterosexual, although with two personas. One for the crossdresser which may or may not be the female persona, it may be the male persona. The other for the heterosexual which may or may not be the male persona, it may be the female persona.

Bondage, being tied up by an attractive woman during sexual intercourse, is the second most common male fantasy; with intercourse the first.

When one is married to more than one that's bigamy, a felony. When one is having an affair while with another, that's adultery, such as Joey and Amy. In their case, open and notorious adultery.

“A guy who’s got the chutzpah to try to pull the wool over somebody’s eyes. That’s a good definition of a bigamist,” said University of Cincinnati clinical psychiatry professor Linda Chernus. “One (spouse) is hard enough,” joked Chernus, who has researched bigamists and believes generally they have such low self-esteem that they marry multiple spouses to compensate with a sense of “grandiosity.” “They need to control women, to keep secrets and keep autonomy so no one knows what’s going on inside of them,” Chernus said. “There may also be some underlying insecurity. “(Bigamists) have a sense of invincibility that they can get away with this. They think they can get away with anything,” she said.

With that Marin County, California couple's own version of Crazy Love, the consensus amount mental health professionals is that the vast majority of cross-dressing men are heterosexual, and that bondage, being tied up by an attractive woman during sexual intercourse, is the second most common male fantasy, with intercourse the first. There is also that aspect of crossdressing of developing a distinct second personalty.

Bigamy, adultery and double lives are all related. There was something missing in each person that drove them to become involved in it For those lucky enough to have found and lived it, it is an addiction, a connection, a co-dependency equally as necessary as eating, drinking and breathing. It's not only the tabloid's Joey and Amy, it's New York City's Bert and Linda Pugach, it's Hollywood's Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, it's San Francisco's Gavin and "the Mayor's Mistress", it's the Matirx's Larry and "Isla, the Dominatrix," it's Marin County's Jim and Morgan, and it's the rest of us who live Crazy Love over Vanilla Love. Try it. The taste will grow on you.

Wasn't Jimmy Olson Superman's sidekick?

Did you know that California state law allows confidential marriages with a minimum of fuss: no marriage license, no blood test, no three-day waiting period and, best of all, no public record that the marriage ever took place. The century-old statute was intended to allow common-law couples to legitimize their marriages quietly and without embarrassment. Now growing numbers of couples are using the law to avoid red tape and keep word of the marriages from parents and friends. In 1972, only 532 such weddings were performed in Los Angeles County and adjacent Orange County. Last year it was 12,212. 'It's one of the greatest laws,' says Edie Steinmetz, owner of the Doves of Happiness Wedding Chapel in Inglewood, a leader in the state's $700,000-a-year secret-marriage industry. 'It allows a lot of people to get married who otherwise would not be able to'—including the already married. Couples fill in a confidential marriage form, which is filed with the county clerk and is then unavailable for inspection by anyone. That makes it easy for applicants’ intent on bigamy. Says William St. John, Orange County clerk: 'There is nothing on the form that requires a couple to say how long they have been living together, if they had a previous marriage or divorce, and if the divorce is finalized.' Dr. A.W. Morey, owner of the Lafayette Wedding Chapel in Long Beach, shrugs off the bigamy problem and insists: 'This is a very moral enterprise. We're trying to get the largest number of people living together to come in and get married legally.' Chapel owners are legally authorized to preside at weddings as long as they have some sort of ministerial certificate, which in California is almost as easy to get as a secret wedding.

So CA law potentially already allows for gay marriage, polygamy, polyandry.

My wife is still talking about this local college band director with the two wives. Now with Big Love so popular, she compares me to him and it and I’m still not measuring up!! I'm still protesting to my wife she’s my only wife at the moment, but no, she wants to know what this guy's doing that he’s so connected to what two women want that he’s married to both of them that I am missing in connecting to her!! Does she want me to crossdress?! No, she wants me to connect as this guy and Big Love does! What!! By God, they’re more intrigued by how he’s connected so well with two women for so long!! Obviously he has” listened” to both of his wives my wife berates me. They admire this clown!!! Not for the bigamy, but for being so successful at “connecting” with two women for so long, which is why they love Big Love. How, and why my wife now harrasses me, can’t I connect to my one wife!? Give me a beer and let me watch the game as I see a fourth divorce rapidly coming down the track. Somebody knock this crazy emotionally screwed up bastard up side the head, force him to be manly by drinking beer, watching the game, give up that sissy dancing, stop making the rest of us males look emotionally inadequate in the eyes of our one at a time wives, and get Big Love off the air! Now my son wants to know where he can sign up. He thinks having two wives in two states and being tied up dressed in woman’s clothes during sex with a dominate woman sounds great to him.

can’t forget the night I met you,
That’s all I’m dreaming of.
Now you call it madness,
But I call it love.
—Nat King Cole, “You Call It Madness (But I Call It Love)”

James Tiberius Olsen aka Jimmy of Superman. Or James Bond? Either way, one James who was living Big Love till caught.

My Dad hates that I want to grow up to be a Marin County, California cross-dressing teacher with two wives. One in Reno, Nevada who ties me up and forces me to have sex with her. The other wife is the hoity-toity Marin career wife who brings home the big bucks so we can live in the most affluent county on the planet while I teach ballroom dancing one night a week. I learned it from my teacher. He’s got his own Big Love and Crazy Love going. Sounds real good to me. It works for Burt & Linda!! It works for ole Joey and Amy!

My Dad hates that I want to grow up to be a Marin County, California cross-dressing teacher with two wives. One in Reno, Nevada who ties me up and forces me to have sex with her. The other wife is the hoity-toity Marin career wife who brings home the big bucks so we can live in the most affluent county on the planet while I teach ballroom dancing one night a week. I learned it from my teacher. He’s got his own Big Love and Crazy Love going. Sounds real good to me. It works for Burt & Linda!! It works for ole Joey and Amy! And then if I have any energy left, I'll troll a student or two a year.

2 wives sounds way cool when I can't even get 1 gf - where do I sign up? Or how can I get to be the mayor of SF?

I want to grow up to the be the mayor of SF. Good looking, girlfriends, booze, it all works for me. You go Gavin!