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The Office MILF: Better Living Through Porn - By - March 18, 2015 - SF Weekly
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The Office MILF: Better Living Through Porn

“Hey, is there any chance that there might be naked pictures of you on the internet?”

That's what Simone Sonay's boss asked her on his way out the door one Friday afternoon, over a year ago.

She froze, retorted with a blasé, “Not like it's any of your business,” and proceeded collecting her belongings to leave for the weekend.

“Huh,” he said. “Must be your twin then.” He winked at her and made his way out the door.

“Have a good weekend,” he said.

Three weeks later, after 10 years of employment with a spotless record, Sonay was fired.

There were, in fact, naked pictures of her on the internet. Sonay had recently launched her career as a porn star, shooting her first scenes at San Francisco's Kink.com and garnering attention for her unique brand of “Stifler's mom”-inspired sexuality.

When sex workers are fired from their jobs, there is usually little legal recourse. Sonay spoke to a lawyer but was told she didn't have a case, even though she'd faced sexual harassment from her boss. He was fascinated with her breasts and often asked for nude photos. Eventually, he found some.

“It was very inappropriate, but I was a single mom and I needed that job,” Sonay recalls.

“I didn't want to rock the boat,” she says. “I didn't say anything because I feared for my job and my financial security. When you're a 40-year-old woman raising two kids and you have a great job, what do you do? Is it worth going on unemployment?”

She hadn't planned on becoming a bona fide porn star. Like many women her age, she was dubious of the industry: “I wasn't sure at that time if [porn performers] enjoyed doing what they were doing, or if the propaganda was true about them being forced into porn.”

She'd seen movies that represented the porn industry as full of drugs and coercion; when a friend of a friend brought Sonay to a Kink.com shoot at the Armory and she was offered a chance to spank one of the models for a BDSM scene, she declined.

“I was incredibly vanilla, and I was still unclear about whether or not I wanted to do this,” Sonay recalls. But despite her misgivings, she was aroused and fascinated by the experience.

She went to more live shows and parties at the Armory, began webcam modeling, caught the eye of a few directors, and started shooting everything from lesbian scenes to gangbangs; eventually, she garnered a 2015 AVN nomination for hottest MILF. As it turned out, Sonay loved doing porn, and she was good at it, too.

Though her involvement in the industry cost her one full-time job, it resulted in another one.

Kink.com, the studio that introduced her to the world of porn, created a position for her shortly after she was fired from her old job. Combining her administrative skills and her experience in front of the camera, she is now the head of talent development and recruiting.

But though her new career focuses on tits and ass almost as much as her former employer, Sonay says she is finally free from the constant sexual harassment she once faced in the workplace.

“I don't ever get treated like that within the porn industry,” Sonay says. “No one has ever once touched me inappropriately or been sexually inappropriate.

“Any of the harassment I've experienced in my life has been outside of the industry,” she says.

Though she loves her position at Kink.com, she still feels resentment for her old boss.

“He got to treat me like that all of that time and then terminate me,” she says. “It feels like he wins.”

Though a day in the life at Sonay's new job would probably make her old boss's head explode, Sonay is still stuck with the discrimination and stigma that come with a career in the sex industry.

“My small little parting gift is that I know he gets to pretend every day that he's someone he's not, and I get to be who I am,” she says. “Plus, I get to see naked people every day.”

I guess they do say the best revenge is living well.