If you had to define yourself in just a few words, which ones would you choose? The question reminds me of those magazine ads for, I don't know, diamonds or insurance or something that showed a photo of a woman and a series of terms -- "cross-country runner," "wine enthusiast," "twin" -- that presumably labeled her quickly and effectively. My own self-description would change depending on who'd see it. My mom? A conservative list ("reader," "thank-you-note sender," "bed-maker"). My friends? Something more frank ("smartass," "plant-killer," "person who crosses the street to pet dogs"). I can say with authority, however, that even if I weren't married when I hit middle age I'd never call myself a "single woman of a certain age," and that even as a mom I'm unlikely to refer to myself as a "mother who thinks." After all,... More >>>